Request from Heather

December 4, 2007 from Skip | Hospitalization| 15 Comments | ««Previous - Next»»

Don has been overwhelmed with visitors today. He is delighted to see people, but tires easily. He also becomes stressed when there are multiple people in the room and side conversations take place. Heather wants all to know how much she and Don both appreciate the thought behind visits, but she asks that you try to convey your thoughts to Don & the family principally through the blog. When we read the blog posts to him, he is able to concentrate on each separate message and appreciate the thoughts better than having several people in the room at the same time.

If you do visit, please do so between 9:30 – 11:30am, and 5:30 – 7:30 pm. Please also keep a 5-minute rule in mind. It is difficult for Don to focus for more than that time.

The outpouring of your love and care for the Valencia family through the blog posts and your visits is deeply, deeply appreciated. We hope you can understand the dilemma facing the family on the issue of visits. Thank you so much.

Skip, for Don & Heather

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15 Comments so far

  1. jim crowell on December 4, 2007 1:04 pm

    Our prayers are with all of you. Best to all in this endeavor.

    Jim and Terri

  2. Marian on December 4, 2007 1:31 pm

    Dear Valencias,
    Thank you for sharing your lives. You are such Godsends. Truly, God sent you. You show us what faith is. Thank you for sharing your humanity–your fear & courage, pain & joy, but mostly your devoted love for God and each other. Reading your entries, it seems easier & easier for you to be faithful in God’s goodness, as odd as that seems. During your challenges, when I would probably fold in weakness, you have kept God in your hearts, always praising his goodness. But, you’ve not kept Him in your hearts, you keep spreading His love–what a gift you are!!
    I’m still praying for you, and thanking God for your family.

    Marian Engebretson

  3. on December 4, 2007 2:03 pm

    Don and Heather,
    We continue to pray for you all from Colorado Springs. Truly God is holding you in his strong gentle hands
    Barbie & Jeff

  4. avroser on December 4, 2007 2:08 pm

    Don & Heather:
    We continue to pray for you daily asking our God to miraculously touch and heal your body, Don. We marvel at how He has touched your mind and will through the Holy Spirit. You are, and have been, an inspiration to us. Thank you for your transparency throughout this incredible journey. It has been a strengthening testimony to us of God’s transforming power which draws us ever closer to Him. May His sovereign will be done in each of our lives.
    Al & Vicki Roser

  5. elthomas on December 4, 2007 2:15 pm

    I treasure every family time with all of you!
    Ian, Olivia, and Sophia send their love! Don, I am remembering Hula outfits, pedicures (Sophia gave you a rainbow one), sand forts (Ian, Johnny, Bo), long walks with Indy on the beach (Olivia, Heather)and boating/wakeboarding (my first and last time) with you!!! It is the middle of Winter but Summer fun at Whidbey is alive in my mind! It is warm and cozy to remember; and to look forward to what our Lord has in store for all of us. Love, Liz

  6. Marilyn Vancil on December 4, 2007 2:28 pm

    Dear Don and Heather…you are on my heart and mind continually. Your strength and grace throughout this ordeal has touched me deeply…and I know it is Jesus in you… His strength, His power, His hope, His love, His grace. Thank you for showing Him to be REAL, not just words in a book. Heather, my one recollection of our Campaigner group was studying obedience and I think I had you all draw pictures of what obedience looked like to you. My picture was a stick figure (me)with a heavy burden on my back at the foot of the Cross, not wanting to lay it down. As I, laid it down in obedience, I straightened up and left upright. What a heavy burden you have all carried to the Cross, but you have remained obedient and faithful. That is why you can be upright and strong, full of joy,peace in the midst. Blessings and love, Marilyn

  7. Peter_Sarena on December 4, 2007 2:50 pm

    Dearest Don and Heather,

    Cleo’s favorite phrase is “let’s go,” so that’s our cheer for you, whatever it means. We love you so much. We just do.

    Let’s go!

    Peter and Sarena

  8. karen johnson on December 4, 2007 2:58 pm

    Dear Don and Heather,
    I continue to pray faithfully for you and the boys.

    It was just a year ago that we said goodbye to my step dad as he succumed to this same disease… You might remember Don that you had offered to come and share your faith with him, but things went too quickly. As he was in and out of consciousness near the end of his life, I continued to recite Psalm 23 to him… and to sing “Jesus Loves Me, This I know”…because at that time, he didn’t know that to be true. But he allowed me to pray for him, and I told him of you and your faith also. It encouraged him…and I believe that in the end, he said yes to God.

    If I could be there with you now Don, I would sing to you as well…I would sing the following, one of my favorites. (When Karli was about 5, she made me a necklace of blue beads…and said “mommy, this is to remind you of your thousands of blessings.” ) she knew even then how much I love this song…

    And so I send the words, along with my love and prayers…and hope you can picture the blue beads. 🙂


    Verse 1

    Great is Thy faithfulness, O God my father!
    There is no shadow of turning with Thee;
    Thou changest not, Thy compassions, they fail not:
    As thou hast been Thou forever wilt be.


    Great is Thy faithfulness, Great is Thy faithfulness,
    Morning by morning new mercies I see:
    All I have needed Thy hand hath provided
    Great is Thy faithfulness, Lord unto me!

    Verse 2

    Summer and winter, and springtime and harvest,
    Sun, moon and stars in their courses above,
    Join with all nature in manifold witness
    To Thy great faithfulness, mercy and love.

    Verse 3

    Pardon for sin and a peace that endureth.
    Thine own dear presence to cheer and to guide,
    Strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow
    Blessings all mine, with ten thousand beside!

    As you have taught all of us so well, “God is good, all the time, God is good.”

    Lord, continue to grant your amazing peace, which is beyond our understanding, to Heather and Don and to the boys. And may we all picture Your faithfulness, even at a time such as this…especially at a time such as this.

    My love and prayers are with you all….


    Karen Johnson

  9. adamkruse on December 4, 2007 3:53 pm


    It was great to see you briefly today brother. Thanks for the friend you’ve been to me. I am continuing to pray for you, Heather and the boys. Love you brother.


  10. Ariel Fisher on December 4, 2007 5:40 pm

    Don and Heather,

    The strength you demonstrate, the love you share and the way you trust have been one of the biggest testimonies of Jesus Christ. It is such an honor knowing the two of you and I am confident that the lessons I have learned from you will continue with me forever. Thank you for allowing God to work within you and use you as a tool to share the gospel. So many have learned about Jesus in a whole new way because of your stories and I rejoice because of that.

    Both of you have been continuously in my thoughts and prayers — I will not stop knocking on heaven’s door. Thank you again and I love you both. May every moment be glorifying to God – for He is good.

    With love,

  11. Karla Sand on December 4, 2007 5:55 pm

    Don and Heather-
    My thoughts and prayers are with you. Don your consistent joy in the Lord is so inspiring. Thank you for your great example of what it means to follow God as a family no matter what comes your way.
    I am so thankful that I know you and Heather…my life will always be enriched because of your influence. Thank you.
    I know that the Lord is smiling down on you right now.

    Blessings and love,
    Karla Sand

  12. twakeen on December 4, 2007 6:04 pm

    Don, brother and friend to all, mentor by example to my beloved Gary, leader and teacher by living your extraordinary faith. Your compelling story inspires us all to seek to love Christ more and seek His peace and strength in all circumstances. Words seem inadequate to express how you have strengthened our faith and caused us to yearn for that closeness to God. I now find myself saying God is good all the time, God is good. We send our love and prayers. Teri Wakeen

  13. jimminyjay on December 4, 2007 7:16 pm

    Jesus, a friend of mine is dancing somewhere close to you. He is teetering on the border of heaven, moving gracefully in your arms, clinging both to your presence and the loved ones he holds dear. It’s a beautiful dance that captivates my soul and fills my heart with a longing for you, but it’s a painful dance full of mysteries and tears. Jesus, I know you hear the prayers, the echo of your children’s voices pleading for a miracle. Yet, the dance goes on. He seems to move in unison with you, step by step, breath by breath, to the rhythm of the Divine. As I cry out for healing I feel a stirring in my soul, a plea of desperation slowly fading into into an image of you. I begin the hear the music, faint within my heart, stirring, calling, rising and waiting… waiting for a response that is welling up within me. Movement overtakes me. I’m overcome by an awareness of you… and now I think I’m dancing, somewhere close to you. I don’t know where this dance is going, Jesus, but I know that you will lead. I know because I have a friend who has shown me how to dance, he’s danced with you in grace and faith, and now he is making dancers of us all.

    God bless you Don,

    Jeremy Vallerand

  14. Tanja on December 4, 2007 9:19 pm

    Don- I came across the blog just a few months ago and have been following it to see how you are doing. It has been some time since our days at Starbucks, but I hold those memories close as if they were yesterday. I still remember the day I found out I was selected to be your assistant! What an honor. I recall so many good times from your vision to build a world class R&D team, the amazing labs, department boat outings, holiday parties, your trek to Kilimanjaro and who can forget Mazagran 🙂 just to name a few. I admire your strength and your willingness to share your journey through the blog. Don, I am so honored to have worked for you and will be forever thankful for that opportunity.
    You, Heather, Johnny and Bo are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Tanja Hasan

  15. rachel on December 4, 2007 9:46 pm

    Dear Don and Heather,

    Last night, Jim and I were reading an excerpt by a beloved theologian, Frederick Buechner, on “the dying process”. We have followed every word of your “living process” these past 15 months holding our breath as we waited to hear and see God through you. And we weren’t disappointed. Buechner compares this “dying process” to getting on an airplane after enduring all the frenzy and anxiety and noise and uncertainty and excitement of the airport, and then speaks of those first moments of take off. He says, “The great craft lumbers its way to the take-off position, the jets shrill. Picking up speed, you count the seconds till you feel lift-off. More than so many seconds, you’ve heard, means trouble. Once airborne, you can hardly see the wings at all through the grey turbulence scudding by. The steep climb is rough as a Ford pick-up. Gradually it starts to even out. The clouds thin a little. The pilot levels off slightly. Nobody is talking. The calm and quiet of it are almost palpable. Suddenly, in a rush of light, you break out of the weather. Above, no sky in creation was ever bluer. Possibly the last take-off of all is something like that. When the time finally comes, you’re scared stiff to be sure, but maybe by then you’re just as glad to leave the whole show behind and get going. In a matter of moments, everything that seemed to matter stops mattering. The slow climb is all there is. Then the miracle of flight, as from fathom upon fathom down, you surface suddenly into open sky. The dazzling sun.”

    Don, your flight precedes ours, but you have indeed been a strong and sure guide for us all when the time for our own journey comes.

    With deep love and gratitude,
    Jim and Rachel

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