My report early this morning spoke of Don’s condition as of early evening yesterday (Wednesday). Heather says that later in the evening he rallied, was about 75% lucid, and the two of them spent some priceless moments talking about surrendering our wills to God, about forgiveness, about grace, and about love.

This morning Don was not in good shape, which is why Heather put out the word for there to be no visitors. Later in the afternoon Don rallied again, and had some good moments of interaction and prayer. One of the nurses helped Heather to understand, that even in these very late stages, the life in Don ebbs away like a tide, then comes back in, only to go out, and come in again.

Heather, her family, and all of us continue to pray — giving God no rest — that Don can walk out of that hospital with a revived liver. Do not think for one moment that Heather is in denial. Just a few days ago Heather and the boys had a private time with Don during which they “released him” from this life, and told him they would be all right even if he were to cross over into heaven. They let him know he need not cling on to this life just for their sakes. Tonight Heather explained this as well as I have ever heard it explained: the prayer for Don’s miraculous healing, and the release and permission she and the boys gave to Don to die, are two sides of the same coin. Like so much of life in Christ, it is a paradox. And it is truth — truth that gives us freedom to grieve the imminent loss of someone so dear to us, and at the same time pray for miraculous recovery.

So let’s all come alongside brave Heather, grieve over Don, but pray fervently for his healing!

Skip, for Don & Heather

ps – Heather asks that we continue to abide by the no visitor request until further notice.

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5 Comments so far

  1. Millie on December 7, 2007 3:38 am

    Dear Skip- Thank you for this update. It’s very helpful because it has been confusing for me to process my own emotions and trying to understand how to pray most effectively. I am thankful that God knows the utterances of my heart that I can’t always find the words to articulate.

    One moment there are tears, the next overflowing with joy. One of these moments was Thursday afternoon on my way home. God allowed me to witness (and still drive safely) 😉 the most amazing sight of what must’ve been several hundred ducks flying south. There were three huge formations that stretched across the sky, plus a few smaller groupings, but once they passed, then there were no more. I don’t know if they were changing locations for the day or the season, but it was remarkable! All I could do was smile and praise God for His amazing creation.

    Heather’s description of two sides of a coin seems to embody the essence of what I feel. I am also renewed in my focus on praying for Don’s miraculous healing. God is able. We serve such an awesome and mighty God!!! What seems impossible to man is possible with God! (ehem, otherwise, it wouldn’t be a miracle) 😉

    Dear Don- I am praying that you may fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. I am praying that God continues your story for His glory!!!

    I praise Him from whom all blessings and lucid moments flow! Thank you Lord for all the moments for Don and Heather to experience the miracle of You and precious time together. Please ease the physical pain to allow for more of those times.

    Don, thank you for the brief visit we were able to share on Tuesday morning. You put so much energy into being present for us, and as with everything you do, so full of grace and peace and love.

    Dearest Heather- You are an amazing woman! Your strength and courage and solid, unwavering faith and trust in God’s will leave me in awe. May you feel God’s gentle arms around both you and Don, and may you be completely supported by His love.

    Remember, you ARE being loved, right now at this very moment! (hope you are enjoying the cd).


    ps. Today (the 6th) is the day 26 years ago when I accepted God’s invitation to come to Him “just as I am” and be His forever. What a perfect “birthday” gift to know the two of you had some precious moments together today!

  2. Polly Urquhart on December 7, 2007 5:05 am

    Dear Skip, thank you so much for this entry. I agree with Millie. This has been a very helpful entry for me. The one before did the same when you talked about the conflict in ourselves as we go through this. Thank you dear brother for your faithfulness to your “brother” and friend, Don, and to your sister, Heather.

    Heather, thank you for letting us be a part of this….letting me….a perfect stranger to you and yet within the family of God I feel so close, so connected. Wonder of wonders. What a wonderful plan….God’s eternal plan and provision for a family. Like so many others I am carrying all of you on my heart through the days…with each waking moment. How precious your moments together and Father, may there be so many more. I continue to knock and seek and ask on Don’s behalf.

    This journey of yours, Don and Heather, has so enriched my life.
    Love in Him,

  3. JLK on December 7, 2007 5:46 pm

    Dear Don and Heather,

    Thank you for the 2-sides of the coin lesson. It has helped me refine my prayers for you and your family.

    John Kim

    “We are not human beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a human journey.” Stephen R. Covey

    God is great!

  4. Lynnee on December 7, 2007 6:25 pm

    I thank you as well for the analogy. We continue to beat down the door with prayers.

    Bob & Lynnee

  5. Libby and Brian on December 8, 2007 1:29 am

    Goodnight Heather Grace!

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